Ten Steps to Staying Connected

Ten Steps to Staying Connected is essential to Long-Distance Grandparents!

So as soon as you are notified that you are going to be grandparents, I'm sure your world has turned upside down! 

I remember the day that we were told that we were going to be grandparents, I jumped for joy!   Literally, jumped, I felt the ground shake, and then realized, I was so glad no one was filming a YouTube video clip!

Yes, you are going to have questions for your child and  want information about the baby!  Yes, are we having a boy or a little girl?  When is it going to be born?  

Let this statement sink in, "Oh, I'm going to be a grandparent!"  Oh, the joys of life!

Other questions might include the following:

  • What room will be the nursery?  
  • Have you decided on the colors? 
  • What about that cat or other animals that are in their house? 
  • Where will I sleep when I come to visit? 
  • Will I need to get a hotel room?
  • Now think, who are you going to tell first!   Are you going to have an announcement party?
  • When can we go shopping?

Next question will probably be, when can we come and see you?   So excited and yet, so far away from the action!  

I know that it must be very difficult when your child and soon to be grandchild live away from you.  No matter if they are an hour or very far away, you still want to be involved!  

I have compiled a list of options that I hope will help you as your grandchild is born and then, as you will see, grows up all too quickly!

Ten Steps to Staying Connected
Stay Involved, Show an Interest, Plan

Just yesterday we were discussing how our grandkids are growing up rather quickly.

If you live a considerable distance away and can't visit that often, you will find that your grandbabies will grow up too quickly!  So start planning now!

Below are Ten Steps that you might consider staying connected with your grandchildren.  

You may also have other suggestions that I will encourage you to list at the end of this page!

Ten Steps to Staying Connected
Don't Miss the Big Day

#1-Grandmothers and Grandfathers should always try to be at the hospital for the birth of their Grandchild.


However, as we begin the list, let me to encourage you to always plan so that you will be able to be with your child at the birth of their child.  

What an event, a life-changing moment to be with your children when this gift from God is delivered! 

So get out the calendar and become a planner!  Plan for travel, now!  Ask for vacation days during the birth and subsequent visits during the first year so that it will all be planned. 

#2-Attend as Much as Possible!

In fact, please remind your children that even though you are so far away, you want to be involved when planning celebrations for the birth of your grandchild!  You will try to be there for the showers, but for sure will be there for the birth!  So please make sure that they keep you posted on activities! 

Before the Birth

With my daughter before the birth

After the birth of my grandchild

After the birth

Believe me, next to the birth of your own children, this by far is the best day of your life! 

Although an emotional time, remember to take time to take those special photos that you will cherish long into the future! 

Question:  Is this the time that you need a new camera?  Really, those new digital cameras have and co do everything!  Note to self: Check batteries, power cords or cables, anything that has to do with a digital camera.  

Do this today while you are thinking about it! 

Oh, if you have time, you may want to take a digital photo class on how to use your camera.   With lighting issues in the hospital, it is best to know how your camera works!  

In fact, you will relive all these memories in the future through these one of a kind photographs. You want to be there to capture for you, your child and your family these special moments!  If not you, someone needs to be designated the photographer so you won't miss out on any photographs.

The beauty of the digital world of photography is that you can always delete those photos that weren't usable.

Floral Arrangement


Take time to breathe and smile!  

Your world has just changed forever!

Ten Steps to Staying Connected
Homebound Grandbaby

#3-Probably the best day you will experience during this process is when your Grandbaby comes home from the hospital or NICU!


If asked, be available to assist the new parents when the baby arrives home. Discuss with the parents if they want you to be there or just drop off food later!

This will be a special time for the couple and newborn, the Babymoon period. They may want to just be with their baby and that is fine! Believe me, you will have time to be with your new grandchild.

Or they may be so overwhelmed, they may want you to share in this wonderful moment.   Remember the camera to take those special pictures of this special time.

Enjoy this wonderful moment!

Ten Steps to Staying Connected
Quote that will make you Smile

This is a quote that I was sent through Face Book after I became a grandmother.

I really think that these few words accurately describe the fact that who can plan for this amazing adventure!

Ten Steps to Staying Connected

Stay connected no matter where you live!

#4-Do you scrapbook?  Do you have photos of you and your home?  Do you have photos of you and your grandchildren during your last visit together?

Yes, another reason to buy a new camera and printer! Create a special memory book or scrapbook that shows you together, your home and surroundings. Present it to your grandchild during your next visit. So the next time you call and talk, you can tell him you are calling from the family room.

Create those special memories for your grandkids!

Ten Steps to Staying Connected
Phone Calls

#5-Phone Calls

- Continue phone calls, reach out and touch your family during this special time.

- Find out the latest news about your grandchild's progress.

Ten Steps to Sharing Connected
Write to your Grandchildrens

#6-Write letters

Write letters to your grandchildren. It will be a record of your feelings and excitement of their birth and special holidays and birthdays in the future. These letters can be placed in a special album or their baby book. 

You can also send a floral tribute.  Send your grandchild or child a favorite flower with a special note to tell them just how much they mean to you!  Our grandchildren love tulips and really enjoyed this small floral tribute!

Ten Steps to Sharing Connected
Give them Something Special

#7-Send Remembrances

  • Random remembrances can be sent for no reason at all. You can just let your grandchildren know that you are thinking about them.
  • It doesn't have to be an expensive gift, just a reminder that you are their grandparent and that they are special to you. 
  • Also, get them something that is useful.  In this picture, the grandchild needed a new sleeping bag for his day care and this was a big hit! 

Ten Steps to Sharing Connected
Grandbabies are the Best!

  • #8-Tape either a special book or a letter to your grandchild. In later years, it will be a wonderful memory to have your voice recorded. Checkout your local Hallmark store for great recordable books. This past Christmas, Nana recorded "I love you" in a Build a Bear store for both boys.

Be careful to buy the bears with the stitched eyes for newborns. Also, as the stuffing deflates, you can take the bears back to the store for a remodel (more stuffing added)!

Ten Steps to Staying Connected
Special Time Together

#9 - Visiting in their home, make sure that you have

special time alone with your grandchild!

  • No matter the age, focus on your grandchild.
  • Find time to go out to a special lunch, check out a new book at the library or go to a local amusement park. 
  • Get on the floor, eye level and have those special moments that only Grandparents can have!   You will probably get a great big hug and kiss!

Ten Tips to Staying Connected
Share your Interests, Hobbies and Dreams

  • #10-As the years pass, share your interests, hobbies, and dreams! Ask what they are also interested in? Example: Take them fishing and see catches the biggest fish!  Or if you are a hunter, take them to a gun range and teach them to shoot.  Or if you are a horseman, take them for riding lessons.  Or if nothing else, just take them on a walk with a family pet!  Then you can discuss many topics with your grandchild!  What are their interests, hobbies and dreams? 

Ten Steps to Staying Connected
Oh, just one more!

  • #11-Consider Family vacations together!   Talk to the family and plan an annual week long vacation at a themed resort or if interested in music, consider Branson, Missouri or Nashville, Tennessee! 
  • If you are on vacation, send them a post card so they will also know that you are thinking of them even when you are away from home.
  • Our family will be going on a vacation soon and I will post information about our times together!

Find more grandparenting ideas online at our Home Page Grandparenting Essentials 

Long-Distance Grandparents

How have you celebrated the pregnancy and birth of your new grandchild?

Please share these exciting times with all of us!

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