Yes, this can be challenging when the Grandparents live many hours away from your child. However, no matter where you live, always try to be involved in various celebrations (i.e., baby showers, birth, baptismal, etc.) that are being planned for your new Grandchild!
If you are the local grandparent, make sure that you include the Long-Distance Grandparents in all events, i.e., showers or holidays!
Also, as a nice gesture, you should offer while the other
parents are in town, to take them out to dinner or cook a homemade
meal. If you have an extra bedroom, you might offer a guest room for
the out-of-towners to use.
Just remember that they are now considered family, if not by blood, but by marriage! This extended family and yours will always be united by the birth of your grandchild and how exciting is this!
If you are the grandparents that lives too far away from your children for weekly or monthly visits, you can still be a part of the process. Make sure that you call often to ask "How are things going?" Ask those special questions as mentioned earlier or I'm sure you have your own.
Hopefully, you are also friends with
the other soon-to-be-Grandparents and you can compare notes of what is to be
expected in the next few months!
I would suggest that you send cards, flowers to the expectant Mom, visit your children often to share in their excitement. The Internet provides a variety of options that you can send from a bouquet of flowers, to chocolate covered fruit, and delicious fruit baskets! What not surprise them with a treat from the best long-distance grandparents that they know!
There really isn't any reason for your child not to feel that you are interested in them and so excited about the birth of their child. In fact, this is the time your own child will need you the most! This special time will be filled with questions, i.e., "What time was I born?", "Any issues when I was born?" or "How long did I have to stay in the hospital?" Many of these are questions that only you can answer!
Grandmothers and Grandfathers should always try to be at the hospital for the birth of their Grandchild.
This lends support to their children as they begin this new phase in life and the feeling that you have when you first see your Grandchild can never be explained.
If work obligations are an issue, use vacation time! It is that important to your children!
This is a quote that I was sent through Face Book after I became a grandmother.
I really think that these few words accurately describe the fact that who can plan for this amazing adventure!
After your grandchild is born, you as the Long-Distance Grandparents should show more interest, continue to be involved or more involved in the lives of your children and grandchildren. You will form a bond rather quickly with your grandchild and want to return more often to see how quickly he is growing!
Don't have your children begging you to come and visit. You should always act interested in your visit, but don't overstay the 3 day rule.
I know you wouldn't want to overstay your welcome! During this time, you may want to stay at a local hotel so it won't put more pressure on the couple. This will allow them to set times so you can see the baby and not interfere with nap times.
times can be fun since you could probably help bottle feed the baby.
However, if the Mom is nursing, you probably would want to find another
time to visit. For example, you can complete the following:
You will find there are always things to do to help the new family get settled after a new baby comes home from the hospital.
Long-Distance Grandparents should always be involved in the celebration of the birth of a grandchild. Staying connected may not always mean being with your grandchild. However, with Social Media, you can always feel that you are with them. Have you used Face Time or Skype? Try each of these out!
Remember, there is no excuse for not staying in touch with your children and grandchildren with access to various Social Media. Enjoy this experience often!
How have you celebrated the pregnancy and birth of your new grandchild?
Please share these exciting times with all of us!